Wednesday, August 14, 2013

{Quote of the Week.} - My favorite one to date.

I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that - I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep”, and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. Ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.- Hugh Mackay
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  1. Oh I think this is brilliant. It's true- having a WHOLE existence is the most important thing. Happy is the default for so few people- and the pressure to be happy probably stops some people from being happy at all. xx

  2. Wow, this is absolutely brilliant! I LOVE it! It leads people to stop fearing sadness or other form of emotion. It's like we can only accept each other if we are always happy.

  3. I am always so intimidated by the idea of "don't worry! be happy!" Is happiness a state, or is it an emotion that comes and goes? I like the idea of "wholeness". Many things in life are not "happy" many things in life can damage your "happiness". So I so get the idea of "whole". At the end of the day, am I in touch with what I feel and why? Who I am and who I am trying to be? Am I accepting of what happens and feel things as they come to me? Am I OK with accepting that it's contributing to my story and my wholeness? To me that makes me much, much more at ease than always wondering "I should be happy! I am just terrible that I just don't feel so right now!"


  4. I was just saying Most people aim for happy but I am for a well rounded life, I am okay with sadness, it reminds me who truly loves me. Everyday for me is celebrating the little joys in life. Put them all together and I live a truly joyous life.

    So its great to see this quote.


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